I had lunch the other day with a new friend. I always enjoy meeting new people, getting to know them, seeing them and how they communicate, their mannerisms and listening to what they feel lead to talk about. Always a good thing!
When I make time to meet with someone, I am always aware of the meeting the their needs during our time together because I believe that is why we are together. There is a purpose either for me or for them. But on this particular day, he was there for my purpose. He gave me some insights or should I say his perspective on helping me be a better writer. I could tell he was a little cautious about what he wanted to share because he wanted it to be positive feedback and not taken the wrong way.
I reassured him I was open to what he wanted to share as long as he said it in a nice way. I know from being a manager of people, it is better to be honest with one another, but it is always in the delivery or how you communicate that message that matters. It’s not really the content that matters. Just like a good joke, it is all in the delivery that makes people laugh or not.
Much to my surprise – he communicated it perfectly. And you know what? What he said was exactly what I needed to hear. He was the messenger to me that day. His communication of what he thought and felt, both positive and negative in the sense to help me improve were perfect. He said others he has tried to be open with didn’t take it well and got defensive and mad, so you can image he was a bit apprehensive to share. However, I am glad he did.
I hope I always remember what he said as I sit down to blog or write my book.
I am one that believes in communicating face to face. We live in a world of high technology, smart phones and text messaging is vastly growing as the new norm of communicating. I believe texting has a purpose, but it will never replace looking someone in the eyes, seeing their expressions, reading their body language or hearing the tone in their voice to know exactly how someone has received the communication you just shared with them.
I know this is hard to do for some introverts or those that are shy. I really do understand that. Even harder when you think what you have to say might be a confrontation. Avoiding confrontation is huge to some people (that will be another blog).
I really wanted to convey the importance of communicating – openly with one another. You should be able to do that without fear of being judged or put down for it. Just be mindful about your delivery – how you say it. Words can either help or tear down someone. Never tear anyone else down. DELIVERY is Key!
Love & Passion,