People can sometimes be mean – down right mean to others on purpose. I experienced this yesterday first hand with someone whom I had tried to help over a year ago. He had said something to someone else that was hurtful, mean, and all lies! I was in shock!! It hurt my soul to hear this. I felt sick to my stomach as I listened.
For the life of me, I just can’t understand someone who is like that. He was one of my clients that I tried to help, but I realized after just one day with him that he was always negative, hated life, hated government, hated his life, racist, and he complained about everything!! He just wasn’t happy at all. He didn’t take responsibility for his choices and was angry because “he never got a fair shake like everyone else.” It was a horrible environment to work.
Well – anyone who knows me knows how positive, happy and completely optimistic I am. I seriously didn’t want to see this man at all because it brought my soul down. I couldn’t be around the NEGATIVE environment without being physically effected by it. I dreaded it when I had to go in his office. And what started out as me HELPING HIM, turned out hurting me. Just as I was about to end it, fate (God) stepped in for me. This man said he didn’t need me anymore because his girlfriend was back and she would take over things again.
I was thinking about this and what lesson I was suppose to learn from it. My intentions were good because I wanted to help him get his business back on track by catching up all his accounting. But it wasn’t healthy for me to do this for him.
I knew within one day that it wasn’t good for me. My soul was telling me to stop because I felt sick when I was with him. The lesson was for me to listen to my voice because my well being was more important than helping him. I was making myself sick – literally.
If you ever experience this with someone whether it’s a friend, co-worker, boss, client, boyfriend, or whom ever it may be, don’t continue with the relationship!! You can say this isn’t working for me and I’ve got to end this now. You can tell them you wish them the best, and just leave. You don’t need to say anything more.
This was a hard lesson for me. I wanted to share this with you in order to press upon you that you are far MORE IMPORTANT than letting anyone hurt you intentionally or unintentionally. Get yourself out of that situation.
I felt so much better as I walked out of his business that day. I wanted to CHEER as I walked to my car. Be good to yourself – love yourself. YOU are very important to you and to those that love you!
Love and Healthy relationships!