“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.”
― Henry Winkler
Communication is one of the biggest factors in any relationship, whether it’s friendships, business relationships, or more personal with family and loved ones.
This lesson has been huge for me. When I was in my 20 and married, I didn’t feel I could share how I felt about anything without being put down for it or yelled at. What I shared didn’t matter or it wasn’t received that way, so I stopped sharing how I felt. What a HUGE travesty that was. Now – when I look back on my life, I shutter to think that I shut down like that.
Today is totally different. I am no longer married to him and have grown exponentially since then. Learning to communicate effectively is key.
1. Communicate from a place of respect and love. The person you are about to communicate with means something to you and you don’t want to hurt them intentionally. Show them respect and love in the way you speak. Don’t put them down, belittle them, say angry things, yell, or call them names. No conversation ever ends well when you lose respect and love.
2. Be impeccable with your words. When you talk to someone chose your words carefully. Speak with integrity. Avoid using words that speak negatively about yourself or gossip about others. Use the power of your words in the direction of truth and love.
3. Speak face to face. When you have something important to say or share always do it face to face. It means a lot to see how the other person is receiving your communication through they’re body language. You will know if they are listening are if they have tuned you out. Trust me when I say – face to face is best.
4. Don’t make assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want or need. You need to communicate clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness or drama. This can truly transform your life.
Always do your best when you are communicating. You can’t take back what you say once it’s said.
And last but not least – The Golden Rule – “Treat others like you want to be treated.” Communicate to others like you’d like to be communicated to.
Love and LOTS of Wonderful Communication