“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche
I am always amazed how people don’t think twice about lying to other people. They lie when asked a question because they know the real answer will upset or hurt the other person, so to avoid an argument or confrontation, they chose in a split second to lie. They believe it will make everything okay for the time being. They might not ever get caught in the lie and if they do eventually then they will deal with it then. But for now….. they want everything to be fine.
But what they don’t realize it “Lies are like domino’s. When you tell one lie, you will then have to tell another to cover the first, and then you have a series of lies falling one after another.”
I will NEVER ever accept people in my life who are not strong enough to respect me with the truth. To me I feel it is totally disrespectful when someone lies to me. And from that point on, I can’t believe a word that they say. Don’t they understand they have lost my trust and respect by lying? It will take a long time, if ever, to gain that back.
I know when I was a kid and my brother and I were confronted by one of my parents with “Who broke that?” – my natural reaction was to blame my brother, but when it came down to it, I’d confess because I knew even back then it was the right thing to do. I knew I was at fault. I knew I was wrong and it was my responsibility to take the consequences for my actions. I was punished but I felt good that I was strong enough to be honest and my parents still loved me despite my wrong doing.
Be strong enough to tell the truth when asked. The other person would rather hear the truth even if they may be hurt for the moment. They will respect you for telling the truth. I can honestly say after 19 years of being divorced that I respect my ex-husband for being honest when I looked him in the eye and asked him the most important question at that moment. He looked me in the eye and was completely honest. It was the best thing for both of us – the truth! I believe it is always best.
Love and Truth!