- As a woman of age, who raised her kids all by herself from the time they were 2 & 4, I speak with words of wisdom and experience.
Children absorb so much when they are young. They are constantly looking to their parents and family members who are close to them, as their teachers. They are looking to these people to be the example for them to role model.
It is a huge, a really HUGE role – probably the most important role a parent gives their children. When you are young however, you don’t realize the importance you play by your actions. Even when you don’t think they are looking, they are.
Some will say they want to teach their children the importance of picking a career, teaching them about money, teaching them values, teaching them to stand up for themselves, and teaching them about God. And ALL of these are important! However, as it states in 1 Corinthians 13 —-the greatest of these is LOVE!
I say this because I see so many marriages that aren’t happy, aren’t working, and two people who aren’t in love and are just together because of the kids. Don’t you think they know you aren’t happy aren’t in love, and basically just trying to get through each day! You are teaching them just that. Don’t you want them to see both mother and dad being happy and in love? Show them what love truly can be like.
I know it’s a double edge sword too. Never make this decision lightly. I certainly don’t have all the answers, but what I am saying is this is important. I married early on in my life for the wrong reasons, and it didn’t work because of that. Huge mistake, except for the two wonderful children I have. BUT, I wanted to have them to see me happy rather than not happy. I was happy alone knowing my soul mate would arrive one day. And I loved them with all my happiness everyday as well.
THE MOST important decision anyone makes in life is WHO THEY CHOOSE TO MARRY! Right? Teach them the importance of taking time to figure out the values, beliefs and characteristics of each person they date. Never settle for someone who doesn’t value them. Relationships should be easy like in baseball, pitch and catch. Will you have disagreements? Absolutely! Can you agree to disagree? Absolutely! Relationships are about love and respect. Set the example for your children – BE the example for them. BE IN LOVE with your partner in life.
Love and light!