Being Honest

Let me get honest with myself for a minute. I need to figure out why I stopped caring about myself, my health, my appearance, so I don’t repeat this again.  Right?

Self reflecting is a good thing, necessary at times to improve yourself.  “Why” did I allow myself to gain this weight?  First answer that came to mind when I asked this question out loud was a life changing event in 2000. When I say a “life event” those are times where our lives “change” and will never be the same from that moment on. Life events tend to be, for example, having a child, a parent dying, finding out you have cancer, etc. Those are life events.

I dramatically changed my life the end of 1999, quit my wonderful job at the University, sold my cute house on the pond, and moved to Indiana for love that didn’t last a year! I take ownership of this decision because at the time, oh goodness I thought it was a good decision, and he “loved” me. Dating long distance and for only six months, was not rational, and anyone can be what they want you to see for six months. But on the other hand, I truly believe everything happens for a reason! There are positives over the years that have come from me moving to Indiana. But this is where I stopped caring. I know in my heart this is where I changed.

It hurt me deeper than I thought. This failure was huge! My lack of judgement for this man, imprinted more on the inside. I cried for months when I left, poured myself in my work, even took up candle making to occupy my free time so I wouldn’t think about him and cry.

Heartbreak – It ran deep! After all these years, it all comes down to heartbreak? Wow. Now I begin the journey of healing myself, caring, and getting where I need to be. Day 2.

What a breakthrough! I feel FREE

Love – Deanna




3 Musts to be an Effective Leader


I started working at an early age because I never liked asking my parents for money! So I was always driven to achieve and excel at everything I did.  It wasn’t until I was working in college, that I found my niche’ where I felt my calling. Accounting came natural to me, as did math. Continue reading “3 Musts to be an Effective Leader”

Seeing Clearly

Clipart Face with glassesI’ve had some hard lessons in seeing relationships as they truly are. Sometimes we can’t see clearly when we are emotionally involved. At some point, have any of your friends ever said to you, “Don’t you see he/she isn’t right for you? We all see it.”  I know that when I was dating, I would tend to focus on their good qualities, and not pay much attention to the other stuff – like Red Flags! WRONG! You must open your eyes to see ALL of who they are. Right? Yes!

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Relationships 101.a


You know, I’ve been laid up with a broken leg for almost a week, and I keep staring at my brainstorming session on my whiteboard. It’s right in plain site and the message I am receiving is WRITE Write WRITE…so here I am.

Love Class 101

Let’s begin talking about friendship. I know we all have a best friend/s, someone that we can be completely open, honest, and real with, knowing that we won’t be judged by any means.

Friendship are more important than we realize. I have two girlfriends that I can tell anything too, and visa versa. One I’ve know for over 25 years and that other one just a few years. I wouldn’t trade anything for their friendship.

There are other is my life that I consider good friends, but I wouldn’t share my deepest secret with. Those people still mean a great deal to me. But I’ve been scorned before when I thought I could share something with someone, and later they got mad and used it against me. They literally wanted to hurt me. That’s not a friend. Someone who care about you wouldn’t do that even if they are mad for a while.

I believe guys and girls need these close friendships beside their dating/marriage relationships. I also believe people come into our lives for a reason… some will be short-term, or as they say a season, and others will be for a lifetime. Don’t be sad by this, because you must know they are here for a lesson – to give us something.

Today all I want you to think about are your close, air-tight, long-lasting friendships. Be very thankful for those friends. Call them up and tell them you are so happy they are apart of your life’s journey! They are forever in your book of life.

Thank you my dear friends for your love, support, advice, laughter, and endearing friendship. May you know how special you are to me. I am better because you are with me.