Allow Others to Help you

holding hands 1I don’t know about you, but it isn’t like me to ask anyone for help. From the time I moved out at the age of 18, I haven’t looked back or asked anyone for help. As love comes full circle, my mom needs my help.

I see her struggle every day with asking me for help. She hates that old age and dementia has set in and she still thinks she can do things on her own without any help from me. But then she realizes sometimes she can’t, and is forced to ask me for help. She will say to me as tears roll down her face, “You’ll understand when you get my age how difficult this is.”

I don’t want to feel guilty to ask someone for help. I love it when others ask me or better yet “ALLOW” me to help them in some way. It gives me such joy to be able to do that.

Why do I not “ALLOW” the same from others? Won’t it give them the same joy that it gives me?

Of course it would. We are so wired to be independent, and trust me when I say “I’m the queen of independence,” that we feel we are weak if we ask for help. I know that is how my mom feels. She thinks because she has gotten old, this makes her weak and she certainly is not weak. It is just the stage of life we are in right now. I’m here to assist her in the things she can’t do anymore.

I believe it takes great courage for us to shift into a new stage or change things in our lives. As I see this coming forth in my mom, I too must see it in myself as well.

This lesson hit home this week as I am faced with a huge trial in my life. I felt broken in a million pieces trying to get through this on my own in this physical world. God is always with me in spirit. But one friend said to me “You are not alone. When you are weak you must allow your friends and family to step up and be your strength when you cannot be. They love you. Lean on them until you are whole again.” Isn’t that truly what love is about?

So the art of allowing is beginning – I want to practice this every day. Allow others to be a blessing in your life. Allow them to love you. Allow them to give forth a smile, a hug, or open a door for you. Allow them to reach out their hand in kindness, grab your hand and pull you up when you need it. Allow others to help you. It will bring them joy and you comfort in knowing their love surrounds you.

Love and Light!

Deanna

You Are Not Alone

“I Am Not Alone” by Kari Jobe, is one of my favorite songs. The lyrics speak deeply to my soul. If you have never heard it, go to You Tube. Here are some of the lyrics.

When I walk through deep water. I know you will be with me. When I’m standing in fire, I will not be overcome. Through the valley of the shadow, I will not fear.

I AM not alone. I AM not alone. You will go before me. You will never leave me. I AM not alone.

In the midst of deep sorry I see your light is breaking through. The dark of night will not over take me. I am pressing into you. Lord you will fight my every battle. And I will not fear!

I AM not alone. You will go before me. You will never leave me. I AM not alone.

You’re my strength. You’re my defender. You’re my refuge in the storm. Through my trials you have ALWAYS been faithful. You bring healing to my soul! I AM not alone. You will go before me. You will never leave me. I AM not alone.

How powerful are those words? VERY! I get goosebumps.

I recently posted something personal on my FB page regarding the trials I am facing right now.  One of my dear friend Harold in Florida, gently reminded me how many people love and support me and added “You are not alone!”  What he said touched me so deeply. I began to cry.  I AM not ALONE!  Neither are you.  If you are going through something, remember – YOU ARE NOT ALONE. You will get through this. ((hugs and kisses))

Love and light!

Deanna

Be LOVE

love never endsGood Morning~ It’s morning as I write this quick note to say

“BE LOVE”

It’s so easy for us to get wrapped up in life, the hustle and bustle of our every day routine, that we need to take a moment, be still, take a deep breath and shut our eyes just for a few minutes.  As you breath in, say I AM Love, I give love, and I receive love!

Now begin your day! You will see a difference.

 

Love and Light!

Deanna

What is the MOST Important Lesson to Teach our Kids?

  • love 1cortAs a woman of age, who raised her kids all by herself from the time they were 2 & 4, I speak with words of wisdom and experience.

Children absorb so much when they are young. They are constantly looking to their parents and family members who are close to them, as their teachers. They are looking to these people to be the example for them to role model.

It is a huge, a really HUGE role – probably the most important role a parent gives their children. When you are young however, you don’t realize the importance you  play by your actions. Even when you don’t think they are looking, they are.

Some will say they want to teach their children the importance of picking a career, teaching them about money, teaching them values, teaching them to stand up for themselves, and teaching them about God. And ALL of these are important! However, as it states in 1 Corinthians 13 —-the greatest of these is LOVE!

I say this because I see so many marriages that aren’t happy, aren’t working, and two people who aren’t in love and are just together because of the kids. Don’t you think they know you aren’t happy aren’t in love, and basically just trying to get through each day! You are teaching them just that. Don’t you want them to see both mother and dad being happy and in love? Show them what love truly can be like.

I know it’s a double edge sword too. Never make this decision lightly. I certainly don’t have all the answers, but what I am saying is this is important. I married early on in my life for the wrong reasons, and it didn’t work because of that. Huge mistake, except for the two wonderful children I have. BUT, I wanted to have them to see me happy rather than not happy. I was happy alone knowing my soul mate would arrive one day. And I loved them with all my happiness everyday as well.

THE MOST important decision anyone makes in life is WHO THEY CHOOSE TO MARRY! Right? Teach them the importance of taking time to figure out the values, beliefs and characteristics of each person they date. Never settle for someone who doesn’t value them. Relationships should be easy like in baseball, pitch and catch. Will you have disagreements? Absolutely!  Can you agree to disagree? Absolutely! Relationships are about love and respect.  Set the example for your children – BE the example for them.  BE IN LOVE with your partner in life.

Love and light!

Deanna