Words of Appreciation

angelsI was talking to one of my girlfriends yesterday about something that recently happened in my life. I hesitated to share my story…. and in that moment MY INNER VOICE said to me “You are MEANT to share your story!” What I went through wasn’t suppose to be kept inside.

As I shared with her, much to my surprise, her reaction was so positive and reassuring at the same time. I told her I know God knew I was strong enough to handle it and that was why he gave it to me! I was meant to survive this violent crime and I only did by the grace of God and Angels protecting me that day. I say that day but I know they are with me every moment of every day… I feel them. What I haven’t share with everyone was that I was protected TWICE that day from death.  The first time I was almost killed on the road driving on the interstate. I was in the fast lane behind a semi truck, the roads were busy but the weather wasn’t bad. And another semi was following behind me.  For some reason the semi suddenly slammed on his brakes and the only way to avoid hitting him was pulling over into the medium by the concrete partition. The semi behind me slammed on his brakes coming within only a few inches of slamming to the semi in front to me. I would have been smashed in between the two semi’s if I had not completely moved over into the shoulder. I have goosebumps as I’m writing this….

I said a prayer of thankfulness in that moment knowing I was protected and saved. My heart racing… I stayed there for a few minutes before everyone started to move again. There is no doubt that Angels protected me and would again in the afternoon of that same day. That story is being written…it’s more graphic.

After sharing with my friend my story – what she said afterwards reaffirmed that my story is to be shared with other women! She loved that I had chosen not to be a victim, but that I said “God knew I was strong enough to handle this and chose me to survive for a reason.”  She continued on to say so many words of appreciation and encouragement that I knew without any doubt, I was right to share and would never hold back or hesitate again.

With that said, I am writing a book about my story along with doing seminars talking to women about dating in the new age of information. I actually have two stories to share in my seminars – both are astounding and hard to believe. And both of them happened back to back!! That in itself is affirmation!  I will keep you posted as the story has been flowing out of me onto my computer.

My words of appreciation today go to God and my Angles. I thank you for your protection, and entrusting me with this message to share with women. I appreciated the love of my family and friends. You are my strength and encouragement too!

Love and thankfulness,

Deanna

Is LOVE the answer?

love never ends“You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching,
Love like you’ll never be hurt,
Sing like there’s nobody listening,
And live like it’s heaven on earth.” ~William W. Purkey

We have all heard that LOVE is the answer.  We are called to love everyone even if they do us wrong. But ……  I have come to know that love can’t change someone else – it changes you.

When you have been hurt or wronged by someone it isn’t easy to let go and say I forgive you for what you’ve done. WE ALL have been hurt. It’s a part of life just as breathing in and out. The best way to heal is to forgive the other person and love yourself.  That doesn’t mean you have that person in your life anymore. It means you wish them the best, pray for them, and learn the lesson you were suppose to learn from the relationship.

I often wonder if loving someone plants a seed of love in them.  I know that I always see the good in people and believe they are honest and trust worthy, but there are people out there that aren’t.  I hope that my showing love or kindness plants even a small seed.  However, like I said before – it may not change them, but I know it changes me.

Love is good. Showing love is even better. And being loved by someone – is the best!

Love & Light,

Deanna

 

 

When your heart breaks

broken heartWhen your heart breaks and all you can do is cry. There is no stopping the tears from falling. Tears rolling down your face and you get consumed with your heart breaking that you begin to bawl out loud. Have you ever been there? I’m sure you have. Me too! I don’t think anyone can go through life without having their heart broke by someone.

Here’s my tips from my personal experiences.

1) Allow yourself to cry. Sometime I feel guilty when I cry, but I have come to realize this is part of the process of your body to let out the feelings you’re experiencing. If you don’t allow them to flow, you hold back and not feel right then, I can assure you that exact feeling you have suppressed will come back to you later when you least expect it. I can remember when I got divorced and the kids were still young. I didn’t want to let them see me upset or to feel my sorrow, so I suppressed it. I had to be strong for them and nothing was going to stop me from protecting my kids and their security. It was one year later almost to the day, that I got up one morning to get them dressed for daycare before I had to be at work when I started bawling uncontrollably. I don’t even remember what the trigger was. All I remember was that I couldn’t stop crying and dropped to the floor with heavy sobs. I got up and called my girlfriend to come help me. She rushed over, told the kids I wasn’t feeling well and took the kids to daycare for me. She took me to the doctor. It wasn’t until then that I began to grieve and heal from the divorce. My advice is allow yourself to cry – even if you have kids you can cry at night when they are sleeping.

2) Your Heart will get broken. It’s part of life especially if you put yourself out there to live life fully. People are human – they will hurt you whether it’s intentional or not intentional. Never close yourself off to life just because your heart has been hurt. That would be like locking yourself in a closet and never letting yourself out of the closet again. Can you imagine that? Maybe if you thought of the closet being locked you wouldn’t do that to yourself. People shut down and lock themselves in because they felt heart-break. DON’T!! That in itself would be a travesty. Your heart will mend, but it just won’t be the same. That person will always be in your heart.

3) Find the lesson.  What is the lesson?  There is a lesson for you to learn from every experience. You need to find out what it is. This is what makes you grow and become a better person. Everyone comes into our lives for a reason – for a blessing or a lesson. They can be both I suppose because somewhere along the way they were a blessing in your life, but now they are a lesson for you. You can’t move on until you find the real lesson. Be honest with yourself. Don’t throw blame or anger – look at it with open eyes. The answer will come to you.

4) Allow yourself time. I know first hand it takes time to mend your heart. For me, I love with all my heart. When I do fall – it’s deep. I need time alone to appreciate the good times, grieve the loss, and time to get my head and heart in sync. This doesn’t come easy by any means. Some people rush into another experience without allowing this healing to happen or for that matter, they don’t even look at the lesson they were suppose to learn. You will hurt the next person if you continue this pattern. Allow yourself time.

Your heart will be broken. It’s part of life. You are a gift to someone out there. They will treat you special and your heart will mend from the ones that weren’t meant to stay in your life.

Love & Light,

De