The year of Change

new beginningsI recently talked to a close friend of mine who has 50+ years of experience in research and teaching, who told me that ages 52 and 56 tend to be major years of change in a persons life. People sometimes refer to the MAJOR changes as a midlife crisis.

Well I’m 56 this year, and I am in the major shift of change. Not long ago I quit a job that I’d mastered all the things I did and more, but the owner lied to everyone, treated some people like they were not worthy of his time or effort, talk about everyone behind their backs, and I finally stood up and said “I’m not doing this anymore!” Period. End of story.

Now – I’m figuring out what I want the next chapter to be. One thing for sure, is I want to be happy whatever I’m doing. No more settling for just a good paycheck. Do you know how many times I’ve done that?! Ugh! And no more being inside a box that people make for me! I am going to live my life – according to me, no one else.

I’m single, kids are grown, and I want this next chapter to be the best one yet! Don’t get me wrong, I’ve accomplished some great things in my career that I’m very proud of! I worked hard to establish a successful career. Now, it’s more about being happy, giving back to others, traveling, and enjoying the beautiful outdoors while earning a happy living. I know things may look like I’m in crisis mode, but I’m not. I’m figuring out what makes me happy.

Life’s to short not to try a new chapter… one that is for me – with no one else dictating what they think I should and should not do. I am happy now that I’m free! Free to do what makes me soar!!!

Deanna (smiling)

 

Thoughts of Perfection Message

Today’s Thoughts of Perfection – The Secret

Think thoughts of perfection. Illness cannot exist in a body that has harmonious thoughts. Know there is only perfection, and as you observe perfection you must summon that to you. Imperfect thoughts are the cause of all humanities ills, including disease, poverty, and unhappiness. When we think negative thoughts we are cutting ourselves off from our rightful heritage. Declare and intend, I think perfect thoughts. I see only perfection. I am perfection.

Allow Others to Help you

holding hands 1I don’t know about you, but it isn’t like me to ask anyone for help. From the time I moved out at the age of 18, I haven’t looked back or asked anyone for help. As love comes full circle, my mom needs my help.

I see her struggle every day with asking me for help. She hates that old age and dementia has set in and she still thinks she can do things on her own without any help from me. But then she realizes sometimes she can’t, and is forced to ask me for help. She will say to me as tears roll down her face, “You’ll understand when you get my age how difficult this is.”

I don’t want to feel guilty to ask someone for help. I love it when others ask me or better yet “ALLOW” me to help them in some way. It gives me such joy to be able to do that.

Why do I not “ALLOW” the same from others? Won’t it give them the same joy that it gives me?

Of course it would. We are so wired to be independent, and trust me when I say “I’m the queen of independence,” that we feel we are weak if we ask for help. I know that is how my mom feels. She thinks because she has gotten old, this makes her weak and she certainly is not weak. It is just the stage of life we are in right now. I’m here to assist her in the things she can’t do anymore.

I believe it takes great courage for us to shift into a new stage or change things in our lives. As I see this coming forth in my mom, I too must see it in myself as well.

This lesson hit home this week as I am faced with a huge trial in my life. I felt broken in a million pieces trying to get through this on my own in this physical world. God is always with me in spirit. But one friend said to me “You are not alone. When you are weak you must allow your friends and family to step up and be your strength when you cannot be. They love you. Lean on them until you are whole again.” Isn’t that truly what love is about?

So the art of allowing is beginning – I want to practice this every day. Allow others to be a blessing in your life. Allow them to love you. Allow them to give forth a smile, a hug, or open a door for you. Allow them to reach out their hand in kindness, grab your hand and pull you up when you need it. Allow others to help you. It will bring them joy and you comfort in knowing their love surrounds you.

Love and Light!

Deanna

Every Experience Allows Growth

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”

~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Every experience that we go through allows us to grow.  We can either learn and grow in a good way or a bad way. If you don’t learn the lesson and stay bitter or angry, then you can rest assured you will go through it again.  That is simply one of life’s rules. Pay attention the first time.

I chose to look at the good and bad of what happens, but I will definitely take what’s good about the experience and run with that. There is always good in something bad! Right? So look for the good…

Love and Light,

Deanna