Words Matter

Words can either be shared in a good or bad way. One thing I do know for sure, words have power. Sometimes people speak without thinking before they speak. The words spoken are based on what they are feeling in the moment, if they are upset, the words will be out of anger or hurt. What is said towards another human being can yield a powerful blow.   Continue reading “Words Matter”

Real Love Is…

holding hands 1Real love is the result of a great deal of effort over a long period of time. It is developed through trust and loyalty and patience, learning not to say a harsh word or even show disrespect when we are provoked. Over many years this kind of love can grow to such an extent that those you love will know you’re incapable of hurting them. Imagine the security this brings, both to you and to them.

~ Blue Mountain Center for Meditation

Love isn’t just infatuation or attraction. Real love develops over time knowing every flaw of the other person and loving them anyway. You can discover a deeper intimate level when you truly can communicate your feelings without fear of any negative response from your partner. True friends can share anything together and it is always the best foundation.

Love,

Deanna

Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say

words have power……And that’s the thing about people who mean everything they say. They think everyone else does too.

Not everyone means everything they say. This is a tough life lesson to learn, especially to those people who grew up instilled with principles of honesty and integrity deeply embedded in their psyche. As we face the real world, we would like to think that everyone is honest, and has the best intentions, but this is simply not true. We have to take the world for what it is.

This doesn’t mean that we should go around being dishonest just because everyone else is but it does mean that we shouldn’t be so naive to believe that what everyone says is true.

An old saying might be a little too harsh but it is something to think about “Believe only half of what you see, and none of what you hear.” Learn to trust those who only deserve your trust and no one who doesn’t.
This is  a tough lesson for me. One that I’m still learning….
Love and Lessons,
Deanna

Random Act of Kindness

random_acts_of_kindness-300x300I was a witness to such a sweet act of kindness last night. I was so moved to be there to see it, feel it, and share in that joyous moment.

I was enjoying dinner with a few friends at Applebees, not far from home. We decided to sit at the bar which has a more friendly, open, personal encounter than sitting at a table. Shortly after ordering, an older gentlemen came in and sat one stool away from me. He was alone and seemed to be enjoying “our” conversation that we were engaging in with the bartender. The bartender is Elizabeth. We were all enjoying the camaraderie and topic of conversation. The older gentlemen was smiling and laughing with us, and finally joined in the conversation.

As we were talking, Elizabeth shared that she was excited about being engaged, getting married soon and becoming a new mom in October. BUT she wasn’t having a baby – it was her sister. She said her sister already had a 3-year-old and couldn’t afford to have another baby.  The sister was considering giving the baby up for adoption when Elizabeth decided she wanted to keep the baby in the family and wanted to adopt him. She knew she wasn’t about to have kids, so this was a perfect solution. We all were so touched by her story and shared in her excitement. Elizabeth is such a beautiful person and when she talked about it her light shined.

The older gentlemen shared about his two failed marriages and now his third was going on 23 years. He shared his knowledge on wines and going to Napa Valley sampling wines. He finished his dinner, and was about to leave. Since I was so close to him, I heard him call Elizabeth over to hand her his payment for the bill.  I turned to watch him. I heard him say to Elizabeth, “Here’s the payment for my dinner, but I want to give this gift (cash) to the baby!” WOW – You can imagine how touched Elizabeth was and so very thankful. She couldn’t tell him enough “Thank you’s!”

After he left, we all were speechless! We all got goosebumps! Elizabeth said he gave her $100 dollars for the baby. She didn’t know who the man was. She has seen him every now and again, but he didn’t speak much before. But HE gave her a gift and gave a random act of kindness for all of us to witness! How awesome is that? VERY AWESOME

I was so deeply touched and reminded that there is goodness in people. I wanted to share the news with those close to me even though I knew my words wouldn’t do this self-less act of kindness justice. My eyes witness this and I would never ever – EVER forget this moment.

Love and Still in Awe,

Deanna