Huge Step

I took a huge step to stand up for what it right. I knew deep down I had to do this because I’d finally reached the limit of what I was willing to accept. My boss, a man I’d lost respect for shortly after starting working for him 1 year ago, was no a good man, and certainly not a good leader/manager. He is the one that owns the company, so he believes he can say or do whatever he chooses without any consequences. He talks about other employees behind their backs to me, and not in a good way. I feel so bad for those who work their butts off, and he doesn’t think highly of them or what they do for him.

Most people who leave jobs leave them because of poor managers, not because they don’t like what they are doing. I strongly believe that.

When I walked into my workplace to turn in my key, I was shaking inside and out. I received a text from him a few minutes before pulling in the parking lot. I replied back as my hands shook and said “I can’t work for a man who lies to me continuedly. I left my key at the front desk. Don’t ever call me or text me for any reason at all.”

What a HUGE step and while I faced my fear, I can tell you it took everything I had to quit and say something true, and not play nice and polite.

What a huge weight lifted. I feel so much better. I am looking for a job now, but I am happier than I have been in a year. It was a toxic place to work. Never again!

Thank you – I am grateful.

Deanna

xoxo

Lies are like Dominos

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“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.”
Friedrich Nietzsche

     I am always amazed how people don’t think twice about lying to other people. They lie when    asked a question because they know the real answer will upset or hurt the other person, so to avoid an argument or confrontation, they chose in a split second to lie. They believe it will make everything okay for the time being. They might not ever get caught in the lie and if they do eventually then they will deal with it then. But for now….. they want everything to be fine.

But what they don’t realize it “Lies are like domino’s. When you tell one lie, you will then have to tell another to cover the first, and then you have a series of lies falling one after another.”

I will NEVER ever accept people in my life who are not strong enough to respect me with the truth. To me  I feel it is totally disrespectful when someone lies to me. And from that point on, I can’t believe a word that they say. Don’t they understand they have lost my trust and respect by lying? It will take a long time, if ever, to gain that back.

I know when I was a kid and my brother and I were confronted by one of my parents with  “Who broke that?” – my natural reaction was to blame my brother, but when it came down to it, I’d confess because I knew even back then it was the right thing to do. I knew I was at fault. I knew I was wrong and it was my responsibility to take the consequences for my actions. I was punished but I felt good that I was strong enough to be honest and my parents still loved me despite my wrong doing.

Be strong enough to tell the truth when asked. The other person would rather hear the truth even if they may be hurt for the moment. They will respect you for telling the truth. I can honestly say after 19 years of being divorced that I respect my ex-husband for being honest when I looked him in the eye and asked him the most important question at that moment. He looked me in the eye and was completely honest. It was the best thing for both of us – the truth! I believe it is always best.

Love and Truth!

Deanna

 

 

 

Standing up for what is right

courage fear“In the moment, you know when you need to stand up for what is right. Have courage and act! Say what you are lead to say calmly but with conviction. Don’t be afraid how it will be received. That doesn’t matter. What matters is that you respond in the moment and not let it pass by.” ~Deanna

Sometime in life we are faced with moments when we are lead to stand up for what we know is right. But also in that moment, our minds allow fear to come into play. We fear that we will offend someone, or they will get mad, or that we aren’t strong enough to stand up if it’s a group of people.

What if you were put there for a purpose? You were meant to be there to say something – to speak up for what is right.

How you respond is critical. You have heard that when telling a joke the delivery is key. The same goes with this situation. How you deliver the message is key. Don’t yell out in anger. Speak with a calm voice. Stand up and speak from your heart. Make sure to listen to your intuition. The right words and actions will come.

What I know for sure at these times – is sometimes people are ignorant. They don’t know what they are saying or doing is wrong. It is only when someone has the courage to speak up IN THAT MOMENT that change can take place in their hearts. If not, the cycle will continue.

Be the voice of change. Be courageous. Stand up with love and kindness when the moment presents itself. Doing what is right ALWAYS feels good. You will never regret it.

Love and Speaking UP!

De