Huge Step

I took a huge step to stand up for what it right. I knew deep down I had to do this because I’d finally reached the limit of what I was willing to accept. My boss, a man I’d lost respect for shortly after starting working for him 1 year ago, was no a good man, and certainly not a good leader/manager. He is the one that owns the company, so he believes he can say or do whatever he chooses without any consequences. He talks about other employees behind their backs to me, and not in a good way. I feel so bad for those who work their butts off, and he doesn’t think highly of them or what they do for him.

Most people who leave jobs leave them because of poor managers, not because they don’t like what they are doing. I strongly believe that.

When I walked into my workplace to turn in my key, I was shaking inside and out. I received a text from him a few minutes before pulling in the parking lot. I replied back as my hands shook and said “I can’t work for a man who lies to me continuedly. I left my key at the front desk. Don’t ever call me or text me for any reason at all.”

What a HUGE step and while I faced my fear, I can tell you it took everything I had to quit and say something true, and not play nice and polite.

What a huge weight lifted. I feel so much better. I am looking for a job now, but I am happier than I have been in a year. It was a toxic place to work. Never again!

Thank you – I am grateful.



What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

what would you do if you weren't afraidI decided after making my Vision Board for 2015, that I wanted to start the year with a small, workshop being offered called “Celebrating a Life worth Living.”

Our first class went amazing well with a small group of 11. The leader asked many open ended questions, each being very thought provoking. But one of the questions asked was “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?” I thought wow, good question. We broke off by two’s to accomplish this task. We were told to say the question out loud, and the first thing that came to our mind was the answer. Then say the question again, and say the next answer.

When we were finished, the group was asked to share. Some shared positives – like travel around world, and others shared life changing choices like get a divorce and move to a place I want to live. See what I mean about thought provoking? Would you leave your marriage/boyfriend if you weren’t afraid? Would you change your job right now if you weren’t afraid? Would you change your career to something totally different, something you’re passionate about, something you would LOVE doing every day, if you weren’t afraid? Would you tell your family your gay/lesbian if you weren’t afraid? Would you speak up for what you believe in going against the norm around a group of friends if you weren’t afraid? Would you tell your boss he/she isn’t being fair to your co-workers if you weren’t afraid?

What would you do if you weren’t afraid? Ask yourself this question. Write down what comes to your mind when you say it out loud. Keep asking until you have several things on paper. Are you amazed at what came to your mind? I can guarantee some of you are.

Let me share my answer with you when it was my turn to ask this question. In front of my partner, whom I didn’t know at all, I said “What would I do if I weren’t afraid?” I replied “I’m not afraid of anything anymore.” The look on her face was shock and disbelief. “Really?” I said “Yes. I’m not afraid anymore of doing what I want to do. Over a year ago my life was almost taken in an instant. I survived almost being killed by someone I had dated. I was changed in that moment and awakened at the same time. For that – I am very grateful. I’m happy to live life to the fullest every day!”

If I can impart words of wisdom to you right now – Don’t be afraid of anything! Take the steps to do the things you want, desire & dream about. You are stronger, smarter, and more amazing than you truly realize. Never let FEAR hold you back! Get past it.

Standing up for what is right

courage fear“In the moment, you know when you need to stand up for what is right. Have courage and act! Say what you are lead to say calmly but with conviction. Don’t be afraid how it will be received. That doesn’t matter. What matters is that you respond in the moment and not let it pass by.” ~Deanna

Sometime in life we are faced with moments when we are lead to stand up for what we know is right. But also in that moment, our minds allow fear to come into play. We fear that we will offend someone, or they will get mad, or that we aren’t strong enough to stand up if it’s a group of people.

What if you were put there for a purpose? You were meant to be there to say something – to speak up for what is right.

How you respond is critical. You have heard that when telling a joke the delivery is key. The same goes with this situation. How you deliver the message is key. Don’t yell out in anger. Speak with a calm voice. Stand up and speak from your heart. Make sure to listen to your intuition. The right words and actions will come.

What I know for sure at these times – is sometimes people are ignorant. They don’t know what they are saying or doing is wrong. It is only when someone has the courage to speak up IN THAT MOMENT that change can take place in their hearts. If not, the cycle will continue.

Be the voice of change. Be courageous. Stand up with love and kindness when the moment presents itself. Doing what is right ALWAYS feels good. You will never regret it.

Love and Speaking UP!