Life is Good

life is goo“Thank you God, for this good life and forgive us if we don’t love it enough.” ~ Garrison Keillor

My motto lately is that life is good. LIFE IS GOOD – it really is. It all depends how we look at life. Are we looking through negative glasses or positive glasses.

I recently went to the eye doctor to get contacts. And of course, my vision has changed in the past 2 years since I’ve seen him. He is always been a quiet, reserved kind of doctor. But I had the pleasure of making him laugh out loud about something I said about my age and eyesight being hand in hand. He busted out laughing because he is the same age as I am! Who knew?? (smile)

But getting back to the story – I thought is was funny that my eye sight is negative to wear contacts, but to get reading glasses I have to buy positive glasses!?!  Now how confusing is that? Well not really confusing. If I am wearing negative contacts I need to counter act that with a positive to read. Isn’t life exactly like that too? Sometimes we need to think about the positive when we are in a negative situation or a bad time in our lives. This is what I know….We chose what glasses to put on and in that choice, we will either surround ourselves with more negatives or more positives. I personally choose the POSITIVE.

When you are having a rough time, going through a storm, dealing with difficult people, or even just feeling down – say to yourself  “What glasses am I wearing right now?”  “I can’t see clearly with those glasses on, so I’m switching to the other glasses!”

Always know – you will make it through whatever problem you are going through. It is part of life. It is a part of growing your soul. But you can choose what glasses to wear!!!

Love and Light,

Deanna

Dustin Hoffman’s Moving Epithany

dustin hoffmanI was so moved by watching this video that I wanted to share my thoughts and feelings. It’s not something you hear or see everyday – a strong actor or man who is so overwhelmed with emotion he can’t hardly speak.

He said he went home and shared this moment of realization with his wife. As he spoke passionately about it,  I choked up and cried. I can’t help but feel deeply what someone else is feeling – like our hearts are connected. It happens all the time. Sometimes it overwhelms me. If someone feels broken, I feel broken. Maybe this is what they call compassion for others.

(Please take a moment to watch the video – picture is the link)

I hope you are touched like I was.

Love,

Deanna

Life Lesson…. Always Communicate

tincans“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.”
Henry Winkler

Communication is one of the biggest factors in any relationship, whether it’s friendships, business relationships, or more personal with family and loved ones.

This lesson has been huge for me. When I was in my 20 and married, I didn’t feel I could share how I felt about anything without being put down for it or yelled at. What I shared didn’t matter or it wasn’t received that way, so I stopped sharing how I felt. What a HUGE travesty that was. Now – when I look back on my life, I shutter to think that I shut down like that.

Today is totally different. I am no longer married to him and have grown exponentially  since then. Learning to communicate effectively is key.

1.  Communicate from a place of respect and love. The person you are about to communicate with means something to you and you don’t want to hurt them intentionally.  Show them respect and love in the way you speak. Don’t put them down, belittle them, say angry things, yell,  or call them names. No conversation ever ends well when you lose respect and love.

2. Be impeccable with your words. When you talk to someone chose your words carefully. Speak with integrity. Avoid using words that speak negatively about yourself or gossip about others. Use the power of your words in the direction of truth and love.

3. Speak face to face. When you have something important to say or share always do it face to face. It means a lot to see how the other person is receiving your communication through they’re body language. You will know if they are listening are if they have tuned you out. Trust me when I say – face to face is best.

4. Don’t make assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want or need. You need to communicate clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness or drama. This can truly transform your life.

Always do your best when you are communicating. You can’t take back what you say once it’s said.

And last but not least – The Golden Rule – “Treat others like you want to be treated.” Communicate to others like you’d like to be communicated to.

Love and LOTS of Wonderful Communication

Deanna