Allow Others to Help you

holding hands 1I don’t know about you, but it isn’t like me to ask anyone for help. From the time I moved out at the age of 18, I haven’t looked back or asked anyone for help. As love comes full circle, my mom needs my help.

I see her struggle every day with asking me for help. She hates that old age and dementia has set in and she still thinks she can do things on her own without any help from me. But then she realizes sometimes she can’t, and is forced to ask me for help. She will say to me as tears roll down her face, “You’ll understand when you get my age how difficult this is.”

I don’t want to feel guilty to ask someone for help. I love it when others ask me or better yet “ALLOW” me to help them in some way. It gives me such joy to be able to do that.

Why do I not “ALLOW” the same from others? Won’t it give them the same joy that it gives me?

Of course it would. We are so wired to be independent, and trust me when I say “I’m the queen of independence,” that we feel we are weak if we ask for help. I know that is how my mom feels. She thinks because she has gotten old, this makes her weak and she certainly is not weak. It is just the stage of life we are in right now. I’m here to assist her in the things she can’t do anymore.

I believe it takes great courage for us to shift into a new stage or change things in our lives. As I see this coming forth in my mom, I too must see it in myself as well.

This lesson hit home this week as I am faced with a huge trial in my life. I felt broken in a million pieces trying to get through this on my own in this physical world. God is always with me in spirit. But one friend said to me “You are not alone. When you are weak you must allow your friends and family to step up and be your strength when you cannot be. They love you. Lean on them until you are whole again.” Isn’t that truly what love is about?

So the art of allowing is beginning – I want to practice this every day. Allow others to be a blessing in your life. Allow them to love you. Allow them to give forth a smile, a hug, or open a door for you. Allow them to reach out their hand in kindness, grab your hand and pull you up when you need it. Allow others to help you. It will bring them joy and you comfort in knowing their love surrounds you.

Love and Light!

Deanna

You Are Not Alone

“I Am Not Alone” by Kari Jobe, is one of my favorite songs. The lyrics speak deeply to my soul. If you have never heard it, go to You Tube. Here are some of the lyrics.

When I walk through deep water. I know you will be with me. When I’m standing in fire, I will not be overcome. Through the valley of the shadow, I will not fear.

I AM not alone. I AM not alone. You will go before me. You will never leave me. I AM not alone.

In the midst of deep sorry I see your light is breaking through. The dark of night will not over take me. I am pressing into you. Lord you will fight my every battle. And I will not fear!

I AM not alone. You will go before me. You will never leave me. I AM not alone.

You’re my strength. You’re my defender. You’re my refuge in the storm. Through my trials you have ALWAYS been faithful. You bring healing to my soul! I AM not alone. You will go before me. You will never leave me. I AM not alone.

How powerful are those words? VERY! I get goosebumps.

I recently posted something personal on my FB page regarding the trials I am facing right now.  One of my dear friend Harold in Florida, gently reminded me how many people love and support me and added “You are not alone!”  What he said touched me so deeply. I began to cry.  I AM not ALONE!  Neither are you.  If you are going through something, remember – YOU ARE NOT ALONE. You will get through this. ((hugs and kisses))

Love and light!

Deanna

What I Know to be True

The quote from Dr. Maya Angelou is what I know to be true.
Women every where are going out on dates hoping the guy they are with will be what they want. I’m sure both sides, male and female, have expectations! When we have these expectations we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. The person hopes he/she is be what they have imagined, and in most cases this blinds people in seeing the truth.
As you sit there reading this where ever you may be, I know someone came to your mind as you were reading.  Looking back now,  YOU KNOW, you know, you know that the person you went out with showed you who they truly are.  You may not believe that, but it’s true. If you allow yourself to see clearly and without preconceived ideas – then yes, on that date if you asked questions of one another, then they showed you.
I know that my intuition told me to break up with someone last year. I should have stopped seeing him just after a few dates, but I didn’t listen. It took me 4 months to finally break up with him. I regret NOT paying attention to my intuition. However, we go through things for a reason. I learned a HUGE life lesson. One I will never forget. I wrote an EBOOK of what I went through in that short period.
I was almost killed by my ex-boyfriend. Yes! His intention was to murder me. In a split second it was clear I had to either fight or die.  Every woman who is dating should read this. Any woman who is in an abusive relationship, should read this! I will always be grateful that I fought back and I’m here to share my story.
Deanna