Allow Others to Help you

holding hands 1I don’t know about you, but it isn’t like me to ask anyone for help. From the time I moved out at the age of 18, I haven’t looked back or asked anyone for help. As love comes full circle, my mom needs my help.

I see her struggle every day with asking me for help. She hates that old age and dementia has set in and she still thinks she can do things on her own without any help from me. But then she realizes sometimes she can’t, and is forced to ask me for help. She will say to me as tears roll down her face, “You’ll understand when you get my age how difficult this is.”

I don’t want to feel guilty to ask someone for help. I love it when others ask me or better yet “ALLOW” me to help them in some way. It gives me such joy to be able to do that.

Why do I not “ALLOW” the same from others? Won’t it give them the same joy that it gives me?

Of course it would. We are so wired to be independent, and trust me when I say “I’m the queen of independence,” that we feel we are weak if we ask for help. I know that is how my mom feels. She thinks because she has gotten old, this makes her weak and she certainly is not weak. It is just the stage of life we are in right now. I’m here to assist her in the things she can’t do anymore.

I believe it takes great courage for us to shift into a new stage or change things in our lives. As I see this coming forth in my mom, I too must see it in myself as well.

This lesson hit home this week as I am faced with a huge trial in my life. I felt broken in a million pieces trying to get through this on my own in this physical world. God is always with me in spirit. But one friend said to me “You are not alone. When you are weak you must allow your friends and family to step up and be your strength when you cannot be. They love you. Lean on them until you are whole again.” Isn’t that truly what love is about?

So the art of allowing is beginning – I want to practice this every day. Allow others to be a blessing in your life. Allow them to love you. Allow them to give forth a smile, a hug, or open a door for you. Allow them to reach out their hand in kindness, grab your hand and pull you up when you need it. Allow others to help you. It will bring them joy and you comfort in knowing their love surrounds you.

Love and Light!

Deanna

Waking UP with Gratitude

“Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.”~ Marcel Proust

As I was driving yesterday to get out, let my hair blow with all the windows down and the sunroof open, I listened to the CD – “The Secret”.  I kept replaying the part about waking up grateful for today, and thinking about all the things we are grateful for.  I know I do this on a subconscious level, but I decided to do it first and foremost before setting my two feet on the floor this morning. Lying in bed, I took a deep breath and let it out. I did this several times. This got my mind focused and centered in gratefulness. I said out loud ” I am so happy and grateful for today. Thank you for blessing me with……”  I listed what I’m thankful for. I didn’t make the list long, but my major points. (smile)

I feel so happy that I started my day out this way. Sometimes I write in my journal what I’m grateful for, but this was different. This brought me to FEEL it. Give it a try!  You will be happy you did.

Love and Light,

Deanna

Every Experience Allows Growth

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”

~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Every experience that we go through allows us to grow.  We can either learn and grow in a good way or a bad way. If you don’t learn the lesson and stay bitter or angry, then you can rest assured you will go through it again.  That is simply one of life’s rules. Pay attention the first time.

I chose to look at the good and bad of what happens, but I will definitely take what’s good about the experience and run with that. There is always good in something bad! Right? So look for the good…

Love and Light,

Deanna