Life Lesson…love openly & honestly

lessons-in-life“Never close your lips to those whom you have already opened your heart.” ~ Charles Dickens

I have a lot of hard lessons in my life especially in love. But I have always said “God will send me someone who will love me with my flaws when I am ready.” I know that to be true.

People come into our lives for difference reasons – we all have heard that right? We are to be open, experience what we are meant to with them, and if they aren’t meant to be in our lives forever then we let go, figure out the blessings they gave us or the life lesson we learned during that time. Sometimes we make mistakes and hope that the other person will forgive us in be stronger in the relationship for it.

The lesson I’ve learned is to love openly and honestly. I have always been protective of my kids since I got divorced when they were babies, but when you are dating someone and you already care deeply for the person, you should share them with your family and friends. You never want to have your partner feel you are ashamed of them. You want his family to love you and he want your family to love him. That is natural. But if you don’t ever show him/her off, then they will feel that you aren’t proud or even worse, that you are ashamed of them. This all comes back to : treat the other person as you want to be treated:

Hard lesson given my background. But lesson learned the hard way.

Love who you are with openly and honestly. Give them your best.

Love and Learning,

eanna

 

Living Your Truth

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“Live your true life. Being honest with yourself first and then with others will bring you true happiness and give you an abundant life.”

~Deanna

I was reminded yesterday how important it is to LIVE YOUR TRUE LIFE  when the basketball player Jason Collins decided to finally announce to the world he was gay and therefore claiming his true life. No one wants to live in fear. They shouldn’t have to. He has had an out pour of support – probably more that he ever expected. He must feel so FREE to be himself and not be in fear anymore.

There are people who don’t understand or who feel it’s wrong to be gay, but I think it’s best to always be WHO you ARE and not feel you have to conform to what other people want you to be. That’s what I mean by living your honest life. I can’t imagine having to be quiet or afraid of being who you are because others may not like it or judge you. It isn’t our place to judge anyone. We are called to love our neighbor – to love everyone!

We may not agree with what someone else does, but we still love them!! It’s like someone who has an eating disorder or smokes – we may not like what they are doing, but we still love them unconditionally.

I am happy Jason decided to love himself and live his truth!! <applaud> Kisses and HUGS!

Go be happy – BE WHO YOU ARE – openly and honestly.

Love and TRUTH

Deanna

 

Life is…..about communicating

communicatingI had lunch the other day with a new friend. I always enjoy meeting new people, getting to know them, seeing them and how they communicate, their mannerisms and listening to what they feel lead to talk about. Always a good thing!

When I make time to meet with someone, I am always aware of the meeting the their needs during our time together because I believe that is why we are together. There is a purpose either for me or for them. But on this particular day, he was there for my purpose. He gave me some insights or should I say his perspective on helping me be a better writer. I could tell he was a little cautious about what he wanted to share because he wanted it to be positive feedback and not taken the wrong way.

I reassured him I was open to what he wanted to share as long as he said it in a nice way. I know from being a manager of people, it is better to be honest with one another, but it is always in the delivery or how you communicate that message that matters. It’s not really the content that matters. Just like a good joke, it is all in the delivery that makes people laugh or not.

Much to my surprise – he communicated it perfectly. And you know what? What he said was exactly what I needed to hear. He was the messenger to me that day. His communication of what he thought and felt, both positive and negative in the sense to help me improve were perfect. He said others he has tried to be open with didn’t take it well and got defensive and mad, so you can image he was a bit apprehensive to share. However, I am glad he did.

I hope I always remember what he said as I sit down to blog or write my book.

I am one that believes in communicating face to face. We live in a world of high technology, smart phones and text messaging is vastly growing as the new norm of communicating. I believe texting has a purpose, but it will never replace looking someone in the eyes, seeing their expressions, reading their body language or hearing the tone in their voice to know exactly how someone has received the communication you just shared with them.

I know this is hard to do for some introverts or those that are shy. I really do understand that. Even harder when you think what you have to say might be a confrontation. Avoiding confrontation is huge to some people (that will be another blog).

I really wanted to convey the importance of communicating – openly with one another. You should be able to do that without fear of being judged or put down for it. Just be mindful about your delivery – how you say it.  Words can either help or tear down someone. Never tear anyone else down. DELIVERY is Key!

Love & Passion,

De