How We Are Defined


“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”~ Eleanor Roosevelt

I am compelled to share this with you. One night this week, I was crying as I watched a movie, “Maid in Manhattan.”  I’ve seen this movie many times, but this time I saw something different, something that made my heart skip a beat. Mind you, this movie is one of my favorites because I don’t typically watch a movie more than once or twice. I have probably watched this at least 10 times. Seriously!  I’m sure this movie isn’t one of Jennifer Lopez’s top picks she has made, but it has made a difference to me.

If you haven’t seen this movie, here’s a quick synopsis.

About Maid In Manhattan

Marisa Ventura (Jennifer Lopez) is a struggling single mom who works at a posh Manhattan hotel and dreams of a better life for her and her young son (Tyler Posey). One fateful day, hotel guest and senatorial candidate Christopher Marshall (Ralph Fiennes) meets Marisa and mistakes her for a wealthy socialite. After an enchanting evening together, the two fall madly in love. But when Marisa’s true identity is revealed, issues of class and social status threaten to separate them. Can two people from very different worlds overcome their differences and live happily ever after?

When she is fired and is handed her bag of belongings, the head butler or concierge, who had served peopled all his life, says to Jennifer Lopez – “What we do doesn’t define what we are. What defines us is how well we RISE  after falling.”

Now isn’t that poignant? All of us will face some huge setbacks, heartbreak, or loss, but what matters is how we rise above it.  Keep that in mind next time you are faced with something difficult.

Love and light!


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“You have the approval of yourself. That’s quite enough for we who know true inner peace! – Charmainism” ~ Charmainise Smith Ladd, Shake Hands with Yourself: A Peacemaker’s Guide to Happiness & Inner Peace

Loving yourself first is highly taught but not easily practiced. It’s something everyone struggles with. We are the first to self criticize, blame, or feel guilty.  We can’t even look in the mirror without criticizing something.

It’s true that with age and enlightenment, comes wisdom of life and spirit. I’ve come through some amazing storms to be transformed in a greater way. One thing you can count on ~ you will always have storms to grow from. But you must remember, the storm will stop at some point, and the sun will come out brighter than before. You’ve come out stronger and better than you were.

One thing that must remain is love which includes self-care.

Self care is all about taking care of your inner home.  It’s the center of all that flows out of you. If you aren’t at peace, but feeling anxious, angry, or stressed, then those energies will flow out of you without you consciously knowing it.

When taking care of your home, you clean, scrub, make it beautiful & comfortable. You take out all the trash and make it smell wonderful inside. Right?  In self-care,  you feel nourished from within.

Here are few things you can begin self-care….

1.  Pampering Massage. Book time with a therapist instead of sitting on a massage chair in your local mall. Enjoy an hour-long full body massage for complete relaxation of every muscle in your body.

2.  Meditate. Retreat to a peaceful place, away from the noise, crowd or clutter. It’s in the silence, breathe, and no distractions where you center yourself. This takes some practice and you might want to take a class to learn what’s works for you. I now start my day with meditation – early before anyone can distract me.

3.  Learn to say No. Have you been feeling overwhelmed because you are in the habit of saying yes to all kinds of requests? Learn to say no without feeling guilty. People should understand without explanation.

4.  Eat Healthy! Cook something easy – fresh and light. Chicken breast and salad. Your body will show appreciation and you will feel better for it.

5.  Enjoy a warm bath. Don’t take a quick shower but take a long, hot, relaxing bath. Shut your eyes and let all the worries or aches melt away.

6.  Go offline – shut off your phone, computer, internet, tablet and other devices. Reduce the mental clutter for a while. It’s okay for a bit. The world won’t collapse without you.

Those are a few ways to begin self care. You are the source of love and taking care of your inner home is extremely important.

Love and Light,


Angels in the Nick of Time

coverimageFIX1-MED‘ANGELS IN THE NICK OF TIME’  By Deanna Leigh

Do you know someone in an  abusive relationship? Possibly a co-dependency? Is he/she controlling? Do they verbally abuse you to bring you down to their level? Do you stay in this relationship because you think you can’t do better? PLEASE read my true story!!

If you or anyone you know is in a relationship like this, please share my book with them. I survived an horrific moment, one that I will never forget, by an ex-boyfriend. Read my book and see what happened!!  This is my official website for more information.