Random Act of Kindness

random_acts_of_kindness-300x300I was a witness to such a sweet act of kindness last night. I was so moved to be there to see it, feel it, and share in that joyous moment.

I was enjoying dinner with a few friends at Applebees, not far from home. We decided to sit at the bar which has a more friendly, open, personal encounter than sitting at a table. Shortly after ordering, an older gentlemen came in and sat one stool away from me. He was alone and seemed to be enjoying “our” conversation that we were engaging in with the bartender. The bartender is Elizabeth. We were all enjoying the camaraderie and topic of conversation. The older gentlemen was smiling and laughing with us, and finally joined in the conversation.

As we were talking, Elizabeth shared that she was excited about being engaged, getting married soon and becoming a new mom in October. BUT she wasn’t having a baby – it was her sister. She said her sister already had a 3-year-old and couldn’t afford to have another baby.  The sister was considering giving the baby up for adoption when Elizabeth decided she wanted to keep the baby in the family and wanted to adopt him. She knew she wasn’t about to have kids, so this was a perfect solution. We all were so touched by her story and shared in her excitement. Elizabeth is such a beautiful person and when she talked about it her light shined.

The older gentlemen shared about his two failed marriages and now his third was going on 23 years. He shared his knowledge on wines and going to Napa Valley sampling wines. He finished his dinner, and was about to leave. Since I was so close to him, I heard him call Elizabeth over to hand her his payment for the bill.  I turned to watch him. I heard him say to Elizabeth, “Here’s the payment for my dinner, but I want to give this gift (cash) to the baby!” WOW – You can imagine how touched Elizabeth was and so very thankful. She couldn’t tell him enough “Thank you’s!”

After he left, we all were speechless! We all got goosebumps! Elizabeth said he gave her $100 dollars for the baby. She didn’t know who the man was. She has seen him every now and again, but he didn’t speak much before. But HE gave her a gift and gave a random act of kindness for all of us to witness! How awesome is that? VERY AWESOME

I was so deeply touched and reminded that there is goodness in people. I wanted to share the news with those close to me even though I knew my words wouldn’t do this self-less act of kindness justice. My eyes witness this and I would never ever – EVER forget this moment.

Love and Still in Awe,

Deanna

Hearts will Break

blkwht heartHearts will never be made practical until they are made unbreakable.
~ The Tinman – Wizard of Oz.

We all have experienced our hearts broken or hurt at some point in our lives. It’s a part of making us who we are today. But with that said, it certainly doesn’t make it easier to go through! When your heart hurts – it hurts deep because we love and care with all our heart.

What I’ve come to realize though….. is we can’t protect our hearts from being hurt. People will do or say something to us without thinking it might hurt us in some way.  There will be some people who will hurt us intentionally and some who hurt us unintentionally. This is what we need to be aware of. Don’t let someone hurt you over and over again because YOU love them and don’t want to be without them. You have more self-worth than that! It’s their issue with themselves, not yours. Let them go. Move on so you can allow better people in your life.

It’s an ACT of SELF LOVE.

Love yourself and give yourself love first! It’s the only way to finding the love that will love you more!

Love ME – Love you…. (smile)

Deanna

Life Lesson…Don’t do something that isn’t healthy for you

karmaPeople can sometimes be mean – down right mean to others on purpose. I experienced this yesterday first hand with someone whom I had tried to help over a year ago. He had said something to someone else that was hurtful, mean, and all lies! I was in shock!! It hurt my soul to hear this. I felt sick to my stomach as I listened.

For the life of me, I just can’t understand someone who is like that. He was one of my clients that I tried to help, but I realized after just one day with him that he was always negative, hated life, hated government, hated his life, racist, and he complained about everything!! He just wasn’t happy at all. He didn’t take responsibility for his choices and was angry because “he never got a fair shake like everyone else.” It was a horrible environment to work.

Well – anyone who knows me knows how positive, happy and completely optimistic I am. I seriously didn’t want to see this man at all because it brought my soul down. I couldn’t be around the NEGATIVE environment without being physically effected by it. I dreaded it when I had to go in his office. And what started out as me HELPING HIM, turned out hurting me. Just as I was about to end it, fate (God) stepped in for me. This man said he didn’t need me anymore because his girlfriend was back and she would take over things again.

I was thinking about this and what lesson I was suppose to learn from it. My intentions were good because I wanted to help him get his business back on track by catching up all his accounting. But it wasn’t healthy for me to do this for him.

I knew within one day that it wasn’t good for me. My soul was telling me to stop because I felt sick when I was with him. The lesson was for me to listen to my voice because my well being was more important than helping him. I was making myself sick – literally.

If you ever experience this with someone whether it’s a friend, co-worker, boss, client, boyfriend, or whom ever it may be, don’t continue with the relationship!! You can say this isn’t working for me and I’ve got to end this now. You can tell them you wish them the best, and just leave. You don’t need to say anything more.

This was a hard lesson for me. I wanted to share this with you in order to press upon you that you are far MORE IMPORTANT than letting anyone hurt you intentionally or unintentionally. Get yourself out of that situation.

I felt so much better as I walked out of his business that day. I wanted to CHEER as I walked to my car. Be good to yourself – love yourself. YOU are very important to you and to those that love you!

Love and Healthy relationships!

De