“You have the approval of yourself. That’s quite enough for we who know true inner peace! – Charmainism” ~ Charmainise Smith Ladd, Shake Hands with Yourself: A Peacemaker’s Guide to Happiness & Inner Peace

Loving yourself first is highly taught but not easily practiced. It’s something everyone struggles with. We are the first to self criticize, blame, or feel guilty.  We can’t even look in the mirror without criticizing something.

It’s true that with age and enlightenment, comes wisdom of life and spirit. I’ve come through some amazing storms to be transformed in a greater way. One thing you can count on ~ you will always have storms to grow from. But you must remember, the storm will stop at some point, and the sun will come out brighter than before. You’ve come out stronger and better than you were.

One thing that must remain is love which includes self-care.

Self care is all about taking care of your inner home.  It’s the center of all that flows out of you. If you aren’t at peace, but feeling anxious, angry, or stressed, then those energies will flow out of you without you consciously knowing it.

When taking care of your home, you clean, scrub, make it beautiful & comfortable. You take out all the trash and make it smell wonderful inside. Right?  In self-care,  you feel nourished from within.

Here are few things you can begin self-care….

1.  Pampering Massage. Book time with a therapist instead of sitting on a massage chair in your local mall. Enjoy an hour-long full body massage for complete relaxation of every muscle in your body.

2.  Meditate. Retreat to a peaceful place, away from the noise, crowd or clutter. It’s in the silence, breathe, and no distractions where you center yourself. This takes some practice and you might want to take a class to learn what’s works for you. I now start my day with meditation – early before anyone can distract me.

3.  Learn to say No. Have you been feeling overwhelmed because you are in the habit of saying yes to all kinds of requests? Learn to say no without feeling guilty. People should understand without explanation.

4.  Eat Healthy! Cook something easy – fresh and light. Chicken breast and salad. Your body will show appreciation and you will feel better for it.

5.  Enjoy a warm bath. Don’t take a quick shower but take a long, hot, relaxing bath. Shut your eyes and let all the worries or aches melt away.

6.  Go offline – shut off your phone, computer, internet, tablet and other devices. Reduce the mental clutter for a while. It’s okay for a bit. The world won’t collapse without you.

Those are a few ways to begin self care. You are the source of love and taking care of your inner home is extremely important.

Love and Light,


Angels in the Nick of Time

coverimageFIX1-MED‘ANGELS IN THE NICK OF TIME’  By Deanna Leigh

Do you know someone in an  abusive relationship? Possibly a co-dependency? Is he/she controlling? Do they verbally abuse you to bring you down to their level? Do you stay in this relationship because you think you can’t do better? PLEASE read my true story!!

If you or anyone you know is in a relationship like this, please share my book with them. I survived an horrific moment, one that I will never forget, by an ex-boyfriend. Read my book and see what happened!!  This is my official website for more information.



Hearts will Break

blkwht heartHearts will never be made practical until they are made unbreakable.
~ The Tinman – Wizard of Oz.

We all have experienced our hearts broken or hurt at some point in our lives. It’s a part of making us who we are today. But with that said, it certainly doesn’t make it easier to go through! When your heart hurts – it hurts deep because we love and care with all our heart.

What I’ve come to realize though….. is we can’t protect our hearts from being hurt. People will do or say something to us without thinking it might hurt us in some way.  There will be some people who will hurt us intentionally and some who hurt us unintentionally. This is what we need to be aware of. Don’t let someone hurt you over and over again because YOU love them and don’t want to be without them. You have more self-worth than that! It’s their issue with themselves, not yours. Let them go. Move on so you can allow better people in your life.

It’s an ACT of SELF LOVE.

Love yourself and give yourself love first! It’s the only way to finding the love that will love you more!

Love ME – Love you…. (smile)