“You have the approval of yourself. That’s quite enough for we who know true inner peace! – Charmainism” ~ Charmainise Smith Ladd, Shake Hands with Yourself: A Peacemaker’s Guide to Happiness & Inner Peace

Loving yourself first is highly taught but not easily practiced. It’s something everyone struggles with. We are the first to self criticize, blame, or feel guilty.  We can’t even look in the mirror without criticizing something.

It’s true that with age and enlightenment, comes wisdom of life and spirit. I’ve come through some amazing storms to be transformed in a greater way. One thing you can count on ~ you will always have storms to grow from. But you must remember, the storm will stop at some point, and the sun will come out brighter than before. You’ve come out stronger and better than you were.

One thing that must remain is love which includes self-care.

Self care is all about taking care of your inner home.  It’s the center of all that flows out of you. If you aren’t at peace, but feeling anxious, angry, or stressed, then those energies will flow out of you without you consciously knowing it.

When taking care of your home, you clean, scrub, make it beautiful & comfortable. You take out all the trash and make it smell wonderful inside. Right?  In self-care,  you feel nourished from within.

Here are few things you can begin self-care….

1.  Pampering Massage. Book time with a therapist instead of sitting on a massage chair in your local mall. Enjoy an hour-long full body massage for complete relaxation of every muscle in your body.

2.  Meditate. Retreat to a peaceful place, away from the noise, crowd or clutter. It’s in the silence, breathe, and no distractions where you center yourself. This takes some practice and you might want to take a class to learn what’s works for you. I now start my day with meditation – early before anyone can distract me.

3.  Learn to say No. Have you been feeling overwhelmed because you are in the habit of saying yes to all kinds of requests? Learn to say no without feeling guilty. People should understand without explanation.

4.  Eat Healthy! Cook something easy – fresh and light. Chicken breast and salad. Your body will show appreciation and you will feel better for it.

5.  Enjoy a warm bath. Don’t take a quick shower but take a long, hot, relaxing bath. Shut your eyes and let all the worries or aches melt away.

6.  Go offline – shut off your phone, computer, internet, tablet and other devices. Reduce the mental clutter for a while. It’s okay for a bit. The world won’t collapse without you.

Those are a few ways to begin self care. You are the source of love and taking care of your inner home is extremely important.

Love and Light,


Waking UP with Gratitude

“Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.”~ Marcel Proust

As I was driving yesterday to get out, let my hair blow with all the windows down and the sunroof open, I listened to the CD – “The Secret”.  I kept replaying the part about waking up grateful for today, and thinking about all the things we are grateful for.  I know I do this on a subconscious level, but I decided to do it first and foremost before setting my two feet on the floor this morning. Lying in bed, I took a deep breath and let it out. I did this several times. This got my mind focused and centered in gratefulness. I said out loud ” I am so happy and grateful for today. Thank you for blessing me with……”  I listed what I’m thankful for. I didn’t make the list long, but my major points. (smile)

I feel so happy that I started my day out this way. Sometimes I write in my journal what I’m grateful for, but this was different. This brought me to FEEL it. Give it a try!  You will be happy you did.

Love and Light,


Dreams Do Come True

dream1Do you believe your dreams can come true? If you don’t, then they will never come true. I am here to set the record straight –  YES they can come true.

I have had a dreamed of being a published author, a public speaker and an inspiration to people.  I kept this to myself for a long because I felt if I shared my dream those people around me would laugh or put it down. I can still hear the voice of my dad saying “Find a government job and stay there for 30 years so you can have a nice retirement!” Because to him that was safe and secure.

BUT I have never been a “safe and secure” kind of girl! (smile) I’m the dreamer. I’m the risk taker. I’m the one who isn’t afraid to take that leap of faith and fail until I succeed. I would rather  try over and over  again to make my dream come true, than to not try because it’s the safer thing to do. Forget that!!

I finally decided to TAKE ACTION towards my dream a month ago. And now the dream is coming true!! How’s that for a success story?!

I will be a published author in a few months. I received the email of acceptance and my joy exploded. I cried tears of joy, had goosebumps and called those who love me. I am a firm believer that when you get goosebumps, that is a sign of connecting spiritually. That’s the thing that reminds me I’m on track of where and what I am suppose to be doing. I’m “in” my purpose.

What did I write? I wrote an inspirational story – my inspirational story. I hope that it will inspire women to know that anything is possible if you set your mind to it. When I thought I wasn’t strong and at the lowest point of my life, I became strong because I had to. My Goddess Sisters – You are stronger than you know!!  I can testify to that! We as women are here to inspire and uplift one another, to support and love each other. Let’s embrace one another because we all are Goddess Sisters!

Dreams can come true.

Visualize your dream. Verbalize your dream. Take action towards your dream. Never give up even if you fail 100 times before it comes true. This dream is in your heart for a reason. God gave you this dream. Stay on target…. Make it come true.

Love and Dreaming BIG!



Embrace YOU!

embrace your beautyEmbrace your own beauty. Each one of us has made bad choices, and some things have happened to us at no fault of our own doing, but remember you are AWESOME!

You need to believe in yourself, love yourself, and STOP  the voice inside yourself from telling you negative things.

Always uplift yourself, uplift your smile, uplift your spirit, and it will uplift those around you!