Huge Step

I took a huge step to stand up for what it right. I knew deep down I had to do this because I’d finally reached the limit of what I was willing to accept. My boss, a man I’d lost respect for shortly after starting working for him 1 year ago, was no a good man, and certainly not a good leader/manager. He is the one that owns the company, so he believes he can say or do whatever he chooses without any consequences. He talks about other employees behind their backs to me, and not in a good way. I feel so bad for those who work their butts off, and he doesn’t think highly of them or what they do for him.

Most people who leave jobs leave them because of poor managers, not because they don’t like what they are doing. I strongly believe that.

When I walked into my workplace to turn in my key, I was shaking inside and out. I received a text from him a few minutes before pulling in the parking lot. I replied back as my hands shook and said “I can’t work for a man who lies to me continuedly. I left my key at the front desk. Don’t ever call me or text me for any reason at all.”

What a HUGE step and while I faced my fear, I can tell you it took everything I had to quit and say something true, and not play nice and polite.

What a huge weight lifted. I feel so much better. I am looking for a job now, but I am happier than I have been in a year. It was a toxic place to work. Never again!

Thank you – I am grateful.

Deanna

xoxo

We aren’t called to Judge others

do not judge“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” ~Mother Teresa

We aren’t called to judge others and yet I hear people judging others all the time.Why do people verbally, out loud say something that is hurtful or judgmental of someone else?

Maybe I’m more aware of this recently because my mother will sit and watch TV and 90% of what comes out of her mouth is judging someone. There is no need to say anything to change her mind because she is entitled to her opinion and gets angry if you defend the person she is judging. But it hurts me to hear her verbally judge others. My grandma was the same way. Just as I wrote yesterday, we are all teaching others something from our behavior. My mother learned from her mom, and I pray I have not passed this on to my children. I don’t think I have because I am very aware of how this feels.

I honestly became aware of this in High School or this was the first time that I was hurt by someone judging me. A girlfriend told me what another friend said about me. She said “I don’t understand why Deanna gets all the guys falling over her and asking her out? I’m prettier than she is!”  Now this was from a person who I thought was a “best” friend.

I wasn’t the prettiest nor the worst, but what I was and still am is kind, confident, giving, sweet, compassionate, and fun-loving. Guys can sense your inner being and not just your outer being. That’s why I had guys who liked to be around me. I didn’t need to be the prettiest, or a cheerleader, or the class President. I was just me.Senior Pic

DO not judge others. That isn’t your job nor right here on earth. God will judge everyone at the end. We all will see our bad and good choices at the end….or that is what I believe. And I’m not asking you to believe what I believe, but what I do want to impress upon you is that it only hurts you to judge. If you look at why you judge, it is because you aren’t loving yourself enough and you feel better putting someone else down. First – love yourself! And then loving others will come naturally.

Love and Light,

Deanna

Standing up for what is right

courage fear“In the moment, you know when you need to stand up for what is right. Have courage and act! Say what you are lead to say calmly but with conviction. Don’t be afraid how it will be received. That doesn’t matter. What matters is that you respond in the moment and not let it pass by.” ~Deanna

Sometime in life we are faced with moments when we are lead to stand up for what we know is right. But also in that moment, our minds allow fear to come into play. We fear that we will offend someone, or they will get mad, or that we aren’t strong enough to stand up if it’s a group of people.

What if you were put there for a purpose? You were meant to be there to say something – to speak up for what is right.

How you respond is critical. You have heard that when telling a joke the delivery is key. The same goes with this situation. How you deliver the message is key. Don’t yell out in anger. Speak with a calm voice. Stand up and speak from your heart. Make sure to listen to your intuition. The right words and actions will come.

What I know for sure at these times – is sometimes people are ignorant. They don’t know what they are saying or doing is wrong. It is only when someone has the courage to speak up IN THAT MOMENT that change can take place in their hearts. If not, the cycle will continue.

Be the voice of change. Be courageous. Stand up with love and kindness when the moment presents itself. Doing what is right ALWAYS feels good. You will never regret it.

Love and Speaking UP!

De

Love like no one is watching…

guess who“Where John (Sidney Poitier)  made his mistake I think was in attaching so much importance to what her mother and I might think… because in the final analysis it doesn’t matter a damn what we think. The only thing that matters is what they feel, and how much they feel, for each other. And if it’s half of what we felt (the parents) – that’s everything.” ~Spencer Tracy in “Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner”

One of my all time favorite movies is ‘Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner’ with Katharine Hepburn, Spencer Tracy, and Sidney Poitier. Released in 1967 this film showed a rare but positive representation of the controversial subject of inter-racial marriage. And the final speech from the father to his family and friends is a memorable, tear jerking, thought-provoking, and loving speech ever given. To this day, I can still think about what he said and cry.

When I sat down to write about LOVE, since we are in the LOVE month of February, this movie came to mind. The love he felt for his daughter was really all that mattered. What his friends or family thought didn’t matter. He remembered back when him and his wife first met, fell in love, and how strong that love was and if his daughter loved just half of that love, then that was everything! Can you imagine feeling half of that love and it be everything? I can. Even Katharine Hepburn and Spencer Tracy had that kind of love for one another which was also poignant for the movie. This was their final movie together. He died 17 days after filming this movie. Hepburn never saw the completed version of the movie because she said the memories of Tracy were too painful.

Even though the movie was about inter-racial marriage back in a time (1967) where is was still illegal in 17 states to marry – it really had another message of love and the power of love. That is the message that stayed with me – not the other.

A person’s skin tone does not matter. God made each one of us special, beautiful and a different color of the rainbow. We are to love one another just as we would love ourselves. We are all beautiful to God! Love strong, without prejudice, and make it matter to you!

Love with Rainbow Glasses,

Deanna